Snippets
"Its more about us than about her at this point." Philip F October 2018
"I'm ok. Its hard saying goodbye over and over, but I feel ok." Meghan T September 2018
"I have to, he did it for me." Patrick A. September 2018
"We stalked the social worker. We followed her in the elevator. We followed her to the cafeteria. We followed her back to the nurses station." Jayne M and Rhea G December 2017
"I can't take it anymore. You have to take them. John Z. 2007
"A sure sign of a caregiver is when a grown man cries." Jomarie Z. 2007
"Sometimes you do it for love, sometimes you do it out of duty, but mostly you do it out of common sense and a sense of humanity." Sylvia W. May 2017
"I find it rewarding. I'm at peace with it." Peter G. May 2015- "I was just the one who was there. They taught me how to do everything at the hospital before he came home." Jeff P. July 2013
I’m not my mother’s caregiver. I don’t identify with that at all. I’m a Vietnam vet. That experience took it all out of me.
Moustafa A. 2012
"I completely feel I did everything I needed to do." Jodi M. March 2018
"That mother-daughter caregiver thing is very post WW2" Peter J. January 2015
"It's excruciating" Dvora R. June 2018
"I hate this." Andrew R. June 2017
"I bought the house so that my mother could live with me and when the time came she said she didn’t want to live with me so she went to my brother’s home." Neil B. 2013- "It doesn't matter if my mother lives in a nursing home of course I'm her caregiver. I do her laundry. I color her hair. I call the doctor or the administration when she needs something." Donna J. September 2010
"I feel so helpless." Doris K. July 2017
- "Caregiver has a different meaning when two people are in need." Jeanne C. October 2014
- "Me? No, a caregiver is the person who changes the diapers. I just visit him twice a week." Larry S. June 2012
"I am doing what I need to do now." Dahna F. March 2015
"I can do better, but its the best I can do for now." Haina J. March 2015
"...and people would say to me 'you're doing a great job. I don't know anyone else doing what you are doing,' ....because this was a while ago. Its not like I'm doing this alone. We are doing this together."
If you hit a wall, climb over it,
crawl under it, or dance on top of it
Choreography by Teresa Perez-Ceccon
Dancer-Story Teller Rochelle Rice
Voices
Click on the series titles below to read Voices which are not blogs but edited essays and poems whose purpose is to share meaningful, thoughtful stories on direct caregiving experiences, observations about the uniqueness and diversity of caregivers, or insight from professionals who serve caregivers and care recipients. Voices use the voice of one to speak to many and incorporate image, analogy, and metaphor. We currently feature seven different title series.
Reflections
Reflections is a collection of photographic images by photographers Sherry Day, Krzysztof Aniolczyk, and Harold Cole which seek to capture the power and depth of the care-pair relationship. The photos reveal those qualities of the caregiving relationship which are impossible to see during the day-to-day complexities of caring. This body of images have themes of Gimme a Kiss, Exchange, a collection of images of simply holding hands, and Dynamic Duos.
